I found myself agreeing with everything she said, at the same time expressing that my experience was peace around this situation. She didn't believe me, kept asking if I was being honest with her. I could understand why! :-)) But I assured her that I was.
And the funny thing was that I wanted her to convince me of the "wrongness" of the situation, I was trying hard to find that place of judgement, fear, worry, and dissatisfaction inside.
Couldn't do it.
The more she grilled me, asking deep, confrontational questions (I wanted her to, she was not being unkind at all), the more peace I felt. In short, no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't find a problem. I could see clearly how it appeared to others, and how it had often appeared to me! But, no dice. I couldn't get there - to that place of "this is not good, I need to do something." There just wasn't any belief in the thoughts that were arising, even though they were seen clearly, understood, accepted.
After a while, my friend commented that if I was at peace with the situation, I would never get out of it. In other words, it takes suffering to make change.
Well, that may be true.....sometimes.....but who knows? In that moment there was no need for anything to change, and yet, there was a complete openness to change, too. No resistance to what was being expressed, no defending "myself." No need even for understanding. Nothing stuck, everything passed through well-being.
Changing the situation seemed a funny proposition, because not only did I feel no need whatsoever to do so, I knew that there was no one who could. The situation will change exactly when/if it is supposed to, without any effect whatsoever on what I am.
Of course, none of this happened to "me." And now, it's only a story of a past....did anything really happen besides peace and well-being? Is anything ever happening besides That?