Now I understand the “fear of intimacy.” True love/intimacy is the death of the individual, the “I,” the ego, the person! The definitive disappearance of the so-called “me“ and “you.” That is why people can seemingly be afraid of love, as crazy as that sounds….because somehow they know that if they “surrender” to it, they will die…. the individual self, that is. They know that true love is all encompassing, universal, and not reserved for an “object” or one special person. This can be frightening to a separate individual. It means that everyone is included! And what does that mean for the “people” involved in a love affair, for example? Ironically, on the level of form, I suspect that nothing much changes after this realization. There will still be conditioning and preferences (seemingly) for the individuals involved….but the knowingness has none.
Only a separate person can be afraid of love!
Therefore, it’s not possible, and we ARE love, and can never be separated from it. It is what we seek, always and in all ways….and yet, we know that if we “find,” it will mean our death as an individual, swallowed up in the sea of love, of consciousness, of oneness….so the seeming person keeps “not finding,” resisting, fighting it, and the game of searching goes on….
And then Truth is seen…..Love is…..and the search ends.
Only a separate person can search!
When the individual disappears, what was always there, is seen, and the search is over. Such sweetness, either way!